Let’s face it. We’ve all been victims of criticism, whether good
or bad. It’s just another part of life. Good criticism or compliments boost our self-esteem and self-confidence. In many cases, it reinforces that we’re on the right track. Personally, a piece of good criticism can actually turn a bad day into a good one. For me, life with Lupus is very challenging. Every day is different yet somewhat predictable. I’d have to endure joint pains, headaches or just a general feeling of malaise. A simple compliment or piece of positive
criticism goes a long way.
Now for the negative criticism. Here’s where you have to be very
attentive. Listen carefully and read between the lines but not to the point where you lose sleep over it. I tend to brush off any negative criticism which gives me no direction to improve myself. For example, there’s a difference between ‘I hated the characters’ and ‘I couldn’t really connect to the characters. I had nothing in common with them’. The first statement was simply an opinion. There are a million reasons why one would not like certain
characters in a book or TV show. It gives no direction for improvement. The second statement is constructive. It elaborates and allows you to see that perhaps the characters weren’t well developed or are lacking in some area like personality or background.
Always weed out criticism. If it’s good, take it to the bank! If it’s not so great or even hurtful, don’t dwell on it too much. Read it, scope out where you can improve (if necessary) and move on. Please do not end up on a seesaw where your emotions are directly tied to good and bad criticism. That’s how I was when I started writing. I’d be on Cloud Nine when a good review was
posted, and then down in the dumps when someone’s review portrayed my work as less than stellar. But that’s life!! Whether you’re a writer or not, you will be criticized! You’ll be criticized for any and every little thing. Back in high school, I was criticized for the way I walked, the way I talked and even the way I held a pencil to write!
Understand that people will always have something to say. We
weren’t all built from the same mold, so we all have likes and dislikes. If a piece of negative criticism’s got you down and has torn you apart because it spewed hate and made you seem incompetent, understand that sometimes the writer or speaker is just venting. Don’t take it personal. There are nasty people out
there who aim to make others miserable. Know that the people behind empty, negative criticism are sometimes angry or even jealous. Who knows?
I’ll leave you with a quote I saw on Twitter which had a lasting impact on me. Hopefully, it’s just as helpful to you.
“Unhappy people will find a flaw on a blank canvas.”
Bye for now :)